The Single Girl Does Oversharing
I have always been an over-sharer. I tell embarrassing stories on myself, I share details that maybe should remain private and sometimes I just don't get why things aren't public common knowledge. From day one, on social media my profiles have been completely open to the public. "Hello stranger, please come like my selfie!"
Historically, there's one topic where I have remained strangely silent. The thing that hurts too much, that is just too close to my heart to share. I might have mentioned it as a passing prayer request, or tried to bring it up to my closest friends only to have welling tears shut me down. Until very recently, I could not talk about my singleness or my desire for marriage. It hurt too much.
Then something happened. It didn't happen all at once and I'm not even sure what started it, but gradually I began to talk about my life. My whole life - and that included one of my biggest secret desires (marriage) and something that I have always struggled with (being single). And here's what I've found as I begin to talk about these things that NO ONE ELSE IS TALKING ABOUT.
A chorus of "Me too's." Men and women (mostly women, let's be real) texting, commenting on social media, and sending me messages thanking me for my honesty. Married and single women alike committing to praying for me, my future husband, my moments of loneliness, my desire to start dating again. All because I decided to jump in and overshare.
I'm reading Goliath Must Fall by Louie Giglio right now and this passage struck me extremely true during this season of my life.
“... whenever a problem is concealed, it finds power in the darkness. But when a problem is confessed, it loses that power. Confession brings the light of Christ to shine upon that problem.”
For so long, I've lived in the dark with this problem that consumed much of my waking hours. But the more I talk about it, the lighter this burden becomes and the less I see it as a problem. So I'm going to keep talking about it. I'm going to share (and probably overshare) what Christ is doing in my heart and my life. I'm going to talk about the things that I never hear other people talk about. And it's all going down right here. Welcome friends to The Single Girl Does.